Do we always want our child to win
If my child always succeeded in life, then i would always cry tears of joy. Its certainly a tricky question but i would always want my child to win as long as he/she is not cocky about it and throwing it in other people’s faces. Life is hard to me so i would always want my child to succeed. And if they fail a couple of times then that’s okay because that’s the reality of life as we know it. Winning and succeeding all the time is hard for everyone to accomplish in life but its very possible if you work hard.
Every parent wants their child to be successful, part of success is learning to lose with grace. Your child isn’t going to be perfect in everything, and teaching them how to lose gracefully is as important as teaching them to win gracefully.
While most parents would love to see their child win at everything, it just isn’t possible. It is important to teach them that as well. You can’t tell your child that (s)he is going to win everything.
NO, and I say that because first of all “always winning” is near impossible, if not truly impossible. Secondly, someone who always wins will not know the feeling of losing, and experiencing this feeling is important because it creates empathy for the “defeated” when your child is the winner. Empathy is an important humanistic trait which, sadly, many people lack in this world. Lastly, losing keeps your child humble, and it pushes them to work harder. It allows them to set goals while remaining driven.
Yes, most of us want our child or children to be winners, all the time, in everything that they do. This is an almost impossible and improbable expectation. We need to understand that the child is an individual entity and has the right to win or fail at their endeavours and have the right to do so without carrying our expectations on their shoulders. They need to know that winning or losing is not as important as being conscious of their happiness and contentment at handling both success and failure. As parents teaching the child to lose gracefully with positive surrender is more important that teaching a child how to win and how to take success. Charity begins at home, therefore parents need to look into themselves first to see if they are driven by measuring success in life to winning. If so then the change needs to come from within the parent and not the child!
I think that as a mother every parent wants their child to win at something. I am a mother that would love to see my boys succeed and win at something they are good at, especially being of color I would want them to show people that they can do anything and not just sports or sing. On the other hand winning at everything is impossible and an expectation that is not seekable. Our kids are young and we want them to be able to say they won and celebrate but at times we have to take a loss just to remind ourselves that this is Life and you are not always going to win. This is something I teach my son all the time especially when it comes to his sports and even his school attendance.