Does couples counseling work? What should I know going in?
Couples counseling can indeed work very well to rescue a faltering relationship. It can also improve relationships that aren’t particularly troubled. Of course, there are no guarantees in life, so whether it is successful for any specific couple will depend on a number of factors. There are several things that it helps to know when beginning couples counseling. One is that if you’re expecting the counselor to agree with you about all your mate’s shortcomings, you’re going to be disappointed. A good counselor will help a couple recognize the real problem areas and find ways to deal with their issues appropriately, often in ways that can actually strengthen the relationship. But it’s not about who’s right and who’s wrong or taking sides in any way. It’s about the relationship and making it as good as possible for both partners. Another good thing to know is that often whether couples counseling is successful or not depends on whether both people are willing to see it through and work at