How can I support my grieving child(ren)?
• Children want to share their experience of grief with adults. Your child’s love for the baby may be very special, and it will be unique as to how much they were included during the pregnancy/birth. Open-ended questions can help you talk and listen to what your child feels. You can ask, “How does that make you feel?” or “What would you like to do for the baby?” • Children need honesty, not deception, when it comes to sharing sad news. Generally, children find ways to cope with grief. It is important to refrain from using clichés, half-truths, and fairy tales that may not explain the mystery of death. Remember that children think literally. Using phrases like “we lost the baby, ” the baby is sleeping with God,” “the baby went on a long trip,” or “the baby is watching over you now” can be confusing because of the literal meaning of the phrases. Use an honest explanation like, “The baby died. That means her heart stopped beating and her body doesn’t work anymore. She is not with us like