How come my dreams feel like life (reality)?
The subconscious mind, which creates dreams and is intuitive, can represent things in dreams in many ways. You just have more of the sensory parts of your brain activated by your subconscious when dreaming. There is a spiritual side to dreams, where one can connect to the spiritual realm to a degree and to other people and spirits to a degree. You do want to have some control in your dreams. Meditate/pray, exercise, and eat healthy, so that you will stay spiritually strong, and able to handle these type dreams with a little more control over what is happening in them.