How Do You Be Assertive Without Being Arrogant?
• Check that you are using assertive communication appropriately. If you are new to assertiveness, or you’re not feeling your usual self because of illness or stress, etc., you might be resorting to techniques that are more aggressive, passive aggressive, or making assumptions where there are none to be made, rather than being assertive. A quick check you can do is to think back through your comments and stance with the person in question and write down what you said. Read it back: Does it sound to you as if you were being assertive, or otherwise? Be honest – it’s about you! • Here’s a good way to express yourself without being arrogant: How to Practice Nonviolent Communication • Check the context. Sometimes factors come into the equation that shouldn’t. Race, gender, married status, age, disabilities, illness, and so on can sometimes cause a person to assume that you have an “attitude”, rather than an assertive style of communication. If you suspect that this is the situation, continu
