How Do You Mend A Marriage After An Affair?
• Decide whether or not to tell. This is a personal decision, based on your values and your unique situation. An argument can be made that if you feel guilty, you should carry the burden yourself and not unburden yourself on your innocent spouse, especially if you now realize it was a mistake, and you are positive it is 100 percent over. Know that the decision to come clean may mean the end of your marriage, no matter how abjectly and honestly sorry you are. Some things simply cannot be fixed. On the other hand, you may feel the need to clear your conscience, and to begin anew with no secrets. If so, you should brace yourself for the blow your marriage will suffer. Most of all, think about your partner, not yourself. Some people would rather not know, and subscribe to the belief that ignorance is bliss; others would want the complete truth at any cost, no matter how painful, believing that honesty is the best policy. • Remember that you can’t control the actions of your former “partner
