how else can reductionism be defended, except by a straw man fallacy?
You’ve moved one step closer to figuring out Who You Are. And that’s especially difficult when your reality doesn’t square with the needs or expectations of the people closest to you. But take a deep breath–it will be okay. You CAN be yourself, and in the process perhaps move even closer to the family you want and need but feel so estranged from. Realize it or not, you’ve thrown up a wall of fear and distrust, and set up “Me versus Them” scenario in your head. But “They” are, after all, a collection of individuals, and (if I had to guess) at least some of them are loving, rational people willing to look beyond labels and belief systems to the good, kind, and well-meaning person you are. When you finally come out as a real person–one who doesn’t share their beliefs–the wall YOU’VE erected will fall. As other readers have pointed out, it will require diplomacy and a gentle hand. But if your husband’s family liked you just fine when you were “just like them,” my guess is they’ll still
