I am newly married. Please let me know……..how do men get aroused and what makes them enjoy the most?
Be affectionate and loving. Touching is important, when he is sitting down, get behind him and rest your hands on his shoulders, squeeze them gently. Stop and kiss him often, just when you pass each other or going in and out of a room. If you want to actually “arouse” him then sitting on his lap and deep kissing him is a sure fire winner. Don’t be too ready to ask what he likes, if he thinks you will be a sex toy he will just satisfy himself without thought for your pleasure. Try it the other way around, tell him what YOU would like him to do, what feels nice, what turns you on – if you don’t have the experience yet, get a copy of “The Joys of Sex” by Alex Comfort (you can order online so no red face in a bookshop!). Whatever you do, do it because you enjoy it and love each other.
The best thing is to ask him what he likes and wants. If you want to keep him happy, tell him you want to know everything. Just be prepared…some guys like some kinky things, but if you don’t mind…. People on here can tell you all sorts of things, but it’s best to just go to the source. Men are very visual…remember that. They like to see sexual acts–whether while they’re doing it themselves or from ****. Lingerie is always a plus too. Do what you’re comfortable with. If you’re asking this question I assume you’re pretty open for anything.