If a dominatrix uses the aforementioned Mandingo strap-on on a man without lube, is it rape?
In and of itself, it’s not rape. Of course, the dominatrix dominates and the man submits, which means he has to obey whatever she wants to do. But, this has it’s limits. The couple should have discussed how each can distinguish between actually wanting the person to stop versus doing it to enhance the mood – either setting up code words or motions or something along those lines. If the man said “stop” but didn’t do any of the cues, the it’s assumed that it was just to be sexy. But, if they were doing any signal they could think of, then yeah, it was rape.
