Is spontaneous sex the only really good sex?
If sex must be spontaneous to be good, there is relatively little good sex happening. We live in a very busy culture and mates ‘feeling’ equally passionate at the same time has the same odds as winning the lottery. Maybe early in the relationship this was the case, but it does not tend to be true for long term relationships. Lovemaking is more than going for a ‘buzz.’ It is blocking out the world and all its’ stressors. It is totally focusing on your mate in your own magic bubble. Later there will be time to worry, disagree, perform daily responsibilities. Loveplay time is a mini vacation without needing to leave home. This scheduled time makes for an intimate companionship when the couple lets down their emotional walls down, not just their clothes. When you were dating you planned it. Meeting for fun was not spontaneous. Maybe lack of planning even hurt your feelings. Predictability builds trust. Anticipation allows for mental and emotional preparation. Planning allow for each to be