Last week, my husbands best friend was killed. What is the best way to say you e sorry to their family?
Hi TessieJo, The key to bereavement for the friends and family is to just be there and listen. You don’t have to say much. It is all about them and their grief. They can’t take much in anyway. Put on your card how you feel, or how your hubby feels. Perhaps he should be sending the card as he was closest. Be honest and express inner thoughts. Mention the connection and make it personal. Email are very impersonal and emotionless. If you do need to go to the funeral just hug and offer your sadness and thoughts. Let them do the talking. Be a good listener. Leave much of the conversation to your husband. It was his friend. Do not be frightened of emotions. We are an emotional species. My thoughts… Sources: Study and Experience.
My husband passed away 2 years ago. I believe that initially isn’t when her biggest need will be. The most difficult time for most people who have lost someone is a couple of weeks, to a few months later. At this time every one else’s life has gone back to normal, but not our own. A few weeks after the person passes away, the phone stops ringing, people stop calling, no one asks how you are. Don’t be afraid to talk to your friend about her husband. My husband is what I was always thinking about anyways, and I wanted to talk about him, but most people were too uncomfortable to ask me much about how I was really feeling. If there are days down the road when she seems alright, still ask how she is. This can be especially true during holidays or other major events. It’s good that she has a concerned friend like you.