Wanting another man to sleep with the wife?
Voyeurism is a form of fetish in which a person finds sexual satisfaction in watching others engaged in sexual acts. This can explain some of the cases where men want their wife to be with another man. Some men really enjoy watching their wives being pleasured, and they can see more of it as a spectator rather than a participant. Part of it may be power – “you can have her for now, but she’ll always come back to me”. Degradation/humiliation (as you suggested, “I’m not good enough”). And then there is just the act being considered socially taboo. For some folks doing somethign socially “wrong” is a turn on.
Maybe Fantasy-wise, it’s arousing…but in reality, I think it would damage the relationship badly. Have you ever seen Indecent Proposal with Demi Moore and Robert Redford? Her character’s husband and her get an offer of 1 million dollars if she has sex with Redford. Maybe it’s not quite in the category you’re speaking of, since it’s more about money. But the point is, some things should remain in fantasy land. Just like Threesomes. I have fantasies about my guy being with another girl…but I would never in a million years want it to come true. Something about it being forbidden or horrific is a turn on, in a way. You’re kind of making it sound like some kind of animal instinct or reaction, and I don’t really agree with that whole, “Alpha male” concept. It’s just sexual fantasy or perversion. No smart, caring, and loving man would want to see his partner being screwed by another person, unless something was off in his head.
That’s why there are clubs for swapping spouses…some marriage can handle it others not soo…it takes a strong person to not get jealous over their spouse sleeping with another…also takes a strong marriage! i couldnt do it…i believe that i am to be with one man and that one man only no matter what….but if it works for others well then that’s their business…
