we are human and are bound to make mistakes and often end up hurting the ones we love be it a lover,family or a friend… but where do you draw the line and won you forgive in a a relationship?
When you call someone lover, friend, family, you are giving titles. Unfortunately, those titles often make people feel entitled; which, in their minds gives them credence to abuse…no matter where the abuse is coming from, it still hurts. Forgiveness should be easy, because humans deserve forgiveness, we all do at some point; but, not allowing the behavior to continue is your way of forgiving that person, but not forgetting, and forgiving yourself for your presence in that situation.
We all know the saying “TO ERR IS HUMAN ” but to be continuously creating mistakes because we know that we are ultimately going to be forgiven is foolishness and atrocius . I would forgive them once if they are my friends or my partner .. But my parents and siblings get an extra benefits of being forgiven multiple times coz its they who made me .. But ultimately the truth shall prevail .. because if some one puts you in a situation where you know you have given them way too many chances i think its high timeyou say them a good bye however close they are to you .
There are two way in which I handle this type of situation. With friends/associates:
I don’t give 2nd chances; that’s where I draw the line. I will first let the person know what bothers me. If I tell them after they do it I will consider that to be the warning (counted as first time). But if I explain it before they do it then it happens, that is when the line has been crossed. I refuse to be played with or not taken serious when It comes to being respected or when being mistreated.
With family:
I don’t put myself out there to get hurt from them after the first time. I’ll be around but I won’t contribute to much of anything of mine besides my time.