What is a good incentive program for good behavior with kids?
Make charts with phrases or pictures to represent each expectation you have for your children. Every time the task is successfully completed, mark the square with a sticker or star. After a predetermined amount of time (like a week) count the marks and provide an agreed-upon reward if the goal is met (trip to McD’s, CEC’s, movie night, etc.). If not met, try again next week. This was very successful for us because it visualized our expectations for our daughter. She could look at it and see what was expected and she was always eager to see the stickers go up! Good luck and stay sane!
ALL kids fight with their siblings, it’s a natural phenomenen. As for DISCIPLINING your children I found that accentuating their positive behavior, lots of praise when they did what they were supposed to do as opposed to giving attention to negative behavior, plus rules and privliges where they have to EARN certain things (television, video game time, computer time and telephone time) Works very well.