What is the best way to handle animosity between your husband and immediate family members?”
to put you in the middle. Tell your family and your husband that when discord comes up you do not want to be informed because you will not take sides. Many eons ago when I was newly married, my Mom (she was a great Mom) treated my husband and I like two clueless little kids (we were professional adults with serious jobs), bossing us around and determining how things should go. In our culture the respect to elders is taken very seriously but was really getting annoying and out of hand. I will not rehash a situation that happened but Mom created a fight with my hubby because they did not see something eye to eye. I told both of them that I was not going to pick sides and I did not want to hear about it. Hubby agreed but Mom went on an adult temper tantrum and did not speak to me for about 3 months. Got frost bite from the cold shoulder I got! Our relationship was never the same again because I stood on my grounds and showed her that finally I was independent. I have a hubby that tends to
