The 18 roses signifies 18 special different men in your life like friends, relatives, including your annoying broher (if you have one), boyfriend or father. Each one will hand you a rose and dance with you one by one. The 18 candles signifies 18 different women in your life like friends, relatives and sisters even your mother. When one candle lights up she will give a speech and after all 18 candles are lit the debutant will blow them out. This is a Filipino tradition by the way Also your father is your last dance and your boyfriend comes before him.