What should the newly engaged couple expect or anticipate when it comes to stress and stress management?
First, couples have to realize they shouldn’t expect “perfection”. Expect a “terrific” day and set reasonable expectations. Never forget that the main goal is to get married. Setting expectations that are too high will create stress and lead to frustration, and then more stress. There will be stress, you can count on it. Why? Because there are a lot of decisions to be made, many details to be worked out, and others may want, or try to influence you. That is not bad or wrong, it just requires that you and your fianc be aware of what is really happening. Try to respond to issues and avoid reacting to things. It will make a big difference. You’ve worked with a lot of brides and grooms; what are the biggest challenges that create stress for brides and grooms? I think divorce is a big one – specifically divorced parents of either the bride or groom, usually create stress that ranks very high. Time is always another stressful factor. People find themselves busy in every day life and now need
