What to include in wedding ceremony?
So our wedding will take place in January of 2018 and I’ve been thinking about the wedding ceremony. We are having a nondenominational service. As of right now, I don’t have much. We will be having a wedding officiant conduct the ceremony. I have started an opening script that I love that I am asking this person to read but that’s about it. My fiancé wanted us to write our own vows, which I’m working on but wanted to know what else to include during the ceremony. I know that we could do the unity candle or the sand but that really doesn’t match our personalities. Are there any other ideas that I’m missing?
I worked for a while as a photographer at wedding ceremonies and I can say that usually the attention of guests is directed mostly towards the appearance of the newlyweds. How they are dressed, what they look like. Especially the bride is the main object of attention. Therefore it is worth paying much attention to how you will look. Determine for yourself the most beautiful makeup. If you do not have lush eyelashes, then do not hesitate to use false eyelashes, for example from Sedure https://alleyelashes.com/seduire/. In combination with a beautiful dress you will be the most memorable wedding event.
There could be a reading or two? A passage from a favorite novel, or a romantic poem. I’m a literature person, so I’m going to have a tough time narrowing down what readings we will actually use, but yeah, it’s a way to add content to a non-religious ceremony. I especially recommend e.e. https://www.weddingforward.com/wedding-ceremony-script/
I haven’t gotten very far (wedding is in June) but I have spent some time googling things like “non-denominational wedding ceremony” and there’s a lot out there! Some friends of my fh got married recently, and he also knew the officiant (a close friend) and she said she basically just cobbled together stuff she found from different ceremonies online.
One thing you could do is think about the tone of your wedding. Do you want it super serious? Lighter, with some jokes? What qualities do you think define your relationship? For example, I’m not doing anything with language like “I couldn’t live without you” or “I knew as soon as I saw you that life would never be the same” because I don’t feel that way about us. Not that I don’t love him, just, we’re both in our 30s and spent our 20s very independent, and we took a while to fall in love. I’d google/read quotes/poems and see what feels true to you and go from there. You don’t have to do anything that doesn’t feel right to you, even if it’s a thing people do or it feels expected.