Why am I so sad after leaving an abusive, depressing relationship?
You are sad because you now know that the future you had expected is not going to happen. You had been living with this ideal in your head and striving towards it, and now it has died and you are grieving. My first husband hit me for the first time on our first wedding anniversary. That was a shock, I can tell you! The next eleven years went downhill from there, until I took my 3 sons and left. I can remember sitting in a pub near the law courts in the city with my sister after I’d obtained my divorce, and I could only remember the happy times! It was the wierdest thing. Although I hated that man as much as I’d ever hated anyone, I recon I grieved for the loss of my dream. You will get over it. You will meet someone who will treat you with dignity. You will regain your optimism, it’ll just take time. Hang in there!
