Why communication, relationship and conflict resolution therapies commonly fail?
Until the essential skill sets are mastered, self help books such as those in the reference material section lead to frustrations. They allow people to feel like they have tried everything they could think of, all of the resources available in the community. The self help books are wonderful to add once you have mastered the essential skill sets. Until you have that mastery, the books offer what is surface niceness, without providing the essential caring, supportive structure.