Why do i feel like the domestic violence is my fault – i wasnt coping with new baby maybe?
Never feel like it is your fault, I can see why you do though because I have been where you have and I would always blame myself as well as get told all the time that everything is my fault. Now you have made that first step to leave, stay gone and start to rebuild a safe future for yourself that the baby. I left several times when our son was a baby, we stayed in a refuge at one point, I ended up going back to him and it just got worse, things were always ok for a little while but they soon went back to normal and I would get abused mentally and physically, at one point he beat me so bad I lost my hearing in my ear. This abusive atmosphere is no place for a child to grow up in, believe me I was affected myself from having my father abuse my mother and then turn on me. It was up to me to get out and stop that cycle from continuing and affecting my son. It seems that he is not ready or even willing to face up to his role as a father, if he was then he would have been doing more to help
