Why do some elderly people become SO cranky?
I can only surmise that some in the age bracket may have some health problems that have caused them to be depressed. Also, many do not age with grace & that can cause crankiness in many. I know of a few people in their 70’s who aren’t as agile as they used to be & they miss being able to do the things they once used to, especially around the house. Tinkerers can no longer tinker, & that can be a real setback for them. Just try to be more understanding of your dad’s moods.
It is their life time basic nature unleashed. They have more freedom now and do not have to exercise control. It would be difficult for them to turn over a new leaf, sadly they carry baggage of past hurts/pain/disappointment. Patients is at a lower level than in prior years, if it even was present then. Seniors respond to respect and feeling needed, whether it is for physical, for advice, instruction or opinion. Having to give up favorite past times and physical recreational endeavors is difficult. Some things can still be done, but, just differently, however pride can get in the way. Accept the fact that your dad probably will not change, you will have to do the change to accept him as is. Let both parents know they are needed, appreciated and loved. Start giving hugs, many families were not raised with hugs(it is foreign) but try it anyway. In God’s eyes we all have worth, seniors need to feel needed if you can provide that you are really helping their self esteem.
Pain. It’s hard to be cheerful when you’re in pain. Other things in life may not have worked out as planned. I can relate. I’m only in my 50’s, but both pain & disappointment in working my entire life to have my dreams dashed tend to make me a bit cranky at times. Try to be understanding. Talk to him if you can.
I’m not in my 70’s yet but I would be mad and yell if kids ran across my grass and I worked hard to make it look nice. I don’t believe that age has anything to do with it, it’s all about respect for other peoples property. Maybe it didn’t both him before because it wasn’t hard to maintain it in his younger years.
