Why is it wrong to have children before marriage?
Well, it’s EXTREMELY unusual for unmarried people to stay together for more than a few years, especially when they’re of child-bearing years. It’s been pretty well documented that kids that come from stable, loving 2-parent homes are more than 5 times more likely to have successful, stable lives than children from stable 1-parent homes. Because marriage is the socially accepted way to come together to have kids, and comes with benefits that extend to tax status, religious issues and common ground with other experienced parents, it is far easier to devote time, attention, and the fiscal benefits of a combined family income to children. In the end, it’s just way, way better for the kids.
Because most of the time these couples don’t stay together. Most married couples, despite what the media likes to portray, actually do stay together for a lifetime. If you want to discuss non religious things, states really don’t enforce common law anymore, so as far as the state is concerned, your parents are not entitled to any goodies from the other party. Like your mom will not be getting any pension, social security, nothing at all once your dad dies. Or vice versa. UNLESS they go to a court house and legalize their union. An estate lawyer will want to see a marriage license, as will a judge before awarding the surviving party a dime. But people who don’t want to get married should never EVER complain about this.
