How should the babys death be discussed with the other children?
Children are affected by a death in the family as well. But, because they don’t always understand or talk about death in the same way as an adult, they may deny it or appear unconcerned. The youngest ones, who cannot tell of their fears or may not understand explanations, mostly need to be reassured of their parents’ continuing love and affection and of their own safety. Older children should be told that the baby died of SIDS. They must be allowed to express their emotions and discuss their fears. Just as parents feel the loss and have doubts, guilt, and sorrow, so do children. Children need an honest explanation; they need to know they were not responsible for the baby’s death. They need reassurance that they will not die in the same way. Children may not show their grief in the same way as adults. They may act out, have nightmares, revert to bedwetting, or become clingy. They may also have problems at school.
