How to handle NOT being asked to be a bridesmaid but being asked to do bridesmaid duties?
I wouldn’t be offended. It’s possible that her reasons for not asking you are the ones you listed but that she really needs your help because the bridesmaids are either living too far away or are useless. Take it as a compliment but I agree that you should set boundaries. Sit down with yourself and set your own limitations. If you don’t want to travel out-of-state more than once (aside from the actual wedding); if you don’t want to take time off from work (unless absolutely necessary… as in she’s in hospital) or that you’re only to organise and will not pay for anything that a bridesmaid should pay for (like the bachelorette party). Then stick to those things. If she asks you to take time off work to travel with her to the venue then just tell her that you really can’t get off work, sorry but maybe bridesmaid number 2 can go with her. If she’s pushing you to rearrange an entire weekend to help her then ask her why the bridal party can’t help and make your decision from that. But plea
