First, what is “emotional baggage?
” Here is my definition: events that a person thinks and/or talks about frequently, that happened during childhood and/or adulthood, that still create emotional pain and cause a strong show of emotion. Second, how do you know if you or someone you are dating has emotional baggage? Almost everyone has a little emotional baggage, and many of us have a LOT of emotional baggage. This issue is one of the biggest blocks to intimacy. It also tends to be the issue that single people are most in denial about. Let me give you an example Several years ago I had a conversation with a divorced woman who claimed she had no baggage. After a while, she finally said, “I just dont want to ever live with a man again because I dont want to have to pick up after him.” Obviously, this woman had been married to a slob, and her baggage was in thinking that ANY man she would live with would be a slob, which was based on her PAST experience. Unfortunately, this womans baggage will keep her from experiencing a h
