How Do You Live With Whiny Negative Flatmates?
• Tell your flatmates how they sound to others. It can help if you point out how negative your flatmates sound by providing actual examples. People do not respond well to generalizations about their behavior but when they are given exact situations and the words, etc. used, they are confronted by realities. This means a little work on your behalf to keep a written record of times that they have whined about things and behaved negatively, so that you can discuss these with them as examples. • Record their actual whining in an audio file and play it back. Sometimes people don’t really listen to themselves. This can be an instant replay lesson in just how they come across to others. Hopefully it’ll be enough to shock them into a rethink. • Notice what sets them off. It might be when they drink too much, when the dishes are piled up in the sink, when the bills arrive, etc. Address these situations with such solutions as good budgeting, shared task allocation, and providing an area where th
