How to get over an emotional affair?
Recovering from an affair is a difficult and ongoing process. But it’s possible to survive an affair. Marriage counseling can help you put the affair into perspective, explore underlying marital problems, learn how to rebuild and strengthen your relationship, and avoid divorce — if that’s the mutual goal. Talk about it. Once the initial shock is over, discuss what happened openly and honestly — no matter how difficult talking or hearing about this may be. Give it time. You can set the timetable for recovery. Often the person who’s been unfaithful is anxious to “put all of this behind us” to help cope with his guilt. Allow each other enough time to understand and heal. Forgive. For many people, this is the hardest part of recovering from an affair. Forgiveness isn’t likely to come quickly or easily — it may be a lifelong process. Talk to a counselor or spiritual advisor about what forgiveness really means. Don’t use forgiveness to cover uncomfortable issues that you think are too hard t
