Is it appropriate to give a homemade bridesmaid gift?
It sounds like this is about more than the gift – it sounds like you feel your friend took advantage of you in order to have her “perfect” wedding. So no, it’s not cool to put so many responsibilities on a friend that she ends up being resentful. That’s really the problem here, not that she gave you a homemade gift. She could have given you diamond earrings and you would still feel frustrated about the amount of time and money you spent on her wedding – believe me, I’ve been there. So the only thing you can do now is a) forgive and forget and carry on as before or b) scale back your friendship with this woman so that you don’t feel taken advantage of in the future.