Is it surprising what Cheryl Dellasega wrote in her book Mean Girls Grown Up?”
Whenever I spoke about the phenomenon of relational aggression, it seemed one person in the audience would ask: What happens to these girls when they grow up? It made me curious, too, but when I looked for any books or studies on the topic, there werent any. Once more, the words of real women who have lived through RA are at the Some girls may find it extremely difficult to forgive and forget when relationship hurts are deep and friendships fractured. Our country has witnessed too many extreme examples of inner conflicts that begin in childhood and explode into violence years later. Girl Grudges: Learning How to Forgive and Live, is written by two experts with many years of experience helping address deep-seated conflicts that cause ongoing pain for all involved. This book offers a variety of experiential and educational activities to help girls in middle and high school either one-on-one or in groups. It is based on the ERA model (Educate, Relate, and Integrate) that first exposes gir
Karen was my daughter Jennie’s best friend through most of high school. With similar backgrounds and shared values, friends, and interests, they had a friendship that was a strength and support. I was a bit concerned about the two girls getting on each other’s nerves or relying on one another and not developing other friendships when they went off to the same college and were roommates in the dorm for two years. I also thought, however, their alliance would be a powerful protection in the huge life passage of leaving home. Jennie complained some about Karen being grouchy and constantly helping herself to Jennie’s clothes and other possessions, but the dormitory life together appeared to go well most of the time. When they came to the next rite of passage — moving out of the dorms with eight other girls and into a huge house with two apartments — I again cringed a bit, thinking of the potential for drama and conflict with 10 young women living together. In the next two years there was a
