My husband cheated before we were married, need advice now?
I’m going to play the God card here for it is the only way for you to find peace again. The issue is not about fault or failure, but about forgiveness. Saying – “I’m sorry” does not cut it in the world of forgiveness. Being sorry does NOTHING to help the person that was wronged. Your husband can say “I’m sorry” a hundred times (and I’m sure he has!) and it does nothing for you. (read your words!) It’s all about forgiveness. Since you and 90% of all people don’t know HOW to do this, I will tell you. You have to go to your husband and ASK him to forgive you for harboring this contempt and negative attitude against him. “Honey, I need to ask for your forgiveness for how I’ve treated you and not believed what you have told me. Will you forgive me?” In doing this, you have placed ALL the power back into his hands to either say yes or no. “Yes” and the chains that are binding you will be released and your relationship will move towards a new place. “No” and the chains of unrepentant, unforgi
Know that your husband was a tramp when you met him. In ALL honesty, I personally do not put any weighting on a relationship for the first few months, and I am a woman. Men are FAR better at compartmentalization, and that is simply what your boyfriend at the time was doing. He married you, period. Maybe you need some therapy to move on….
Are you kidding me. He is the man of your dreams and he has been faithful and great husband for 5 years and you are torturing this guy over something he did the first 4 months — 7 years ago. What is wrong with you that you feel you have to torture him with all this — what sort of interrogation methods did you employ till you were finally able to break him and find something to torture him with. My attitude if you were my wife — you need some serious therapy — think I am being harsh? — go tell this story to a professional therapist — they will be on the track of what is wrong with you, not what he did, in about 30 seconds flat. Good luck!
