What does it mean to go through the “MeatGrinder”?
There is no requirement in the laws, as applied today in most states, that there be any fairness or equity in the divorce/custody process. It is quite possible that you will find the family courts to be rather unconcerned with the details of your personal hardship, let alone any high-minded concepts, such as truth, justice, or “the best interests of the children.” When a court first receives a custody case, the court is primarily concerned with ensuring that the children are being fed, clothed, and sheltered, while also ensuring that the children are not being abused in any way. The courts are not particularly concerned with the visitation arrangement, provided that each parent has at least a minimal amount of contact. While the courts are theoretically not gender biased, they will most frequently (more than 90% of the time) defer to the mother, unless substantial “unfitness” can be demonstrated. Though the courts strive to protect the children, they do not have the resources to invest
