What does one talk about when first approaching a girl? Should certain topics be emphasized/avoided?
This is called “fluff talk” and usually the best topic of conversation is what the girl is interested in. Unless you’re braindead, you can usually get to this by asking someone general questions about the surroundings/environment, something you noticed about her, a funny thing that popped into your head, if she’s with a group of people (men, women, or a mixture) “So, how do you all know each other?” Or maybe compliment of piece of clothing and ask her where she got it. Whatever. The point is to let her lead into a topic that perhaps she’s interested in, not to dwell on the fluff topics. Then ask a few more questions (not too many or she’ll feel like she’s being grilled), get some answers and you’re done “fluff talking”, ready to get into the good stuff. Topics to be avoided unless SHE brings them up AND appears to be very interested in them (in regards to herself): work, school, weather, sports. Topics to be avoided at all costs: anything negative.
This is called “fluff talk” and usually the best topic of conversation is what the girl is interested in. Unless you’re braindead, you can usually get to this by asking someone general questions about the surroundings/environment, something you noticed about her, a funny thing that popped into your head, if she’s with a group of people (men, women, or a mixture) “So, how do you all know each other?” Or maybe compliment of piece of clothing and ask her where she got it. Whatever. The point is to let her lead into a topic that perhaps she’s interested in, not to dwell on the fluff topics. Then ask a few more questions (not too many or she’ll feel like she’s being grilled), get some answers and you’re done “fluff talking”, ready to get into the good stuff. Topics to be avoided unless SHE brings them up AND appears to be very interested in them (in regards to herself): work, school, weather, sports. Topics to be avoided at all costs: anything negative.
