What if one person in a family or workplace reads ALOTH and the others don’t…will it still work?
Yes! And this is why. When you are in relationships, whether they are work or family relationships, the others you relate to are usually relating from a position of a broken heart. They have expectation they will never be seen for who they are and they have learned a lot of ways to protect themselves. These behaviors are often the ones you run up against that are so frustrating. They are self-protective behaviors, which you then react to in your own self-protection. When you become self-validated and intentional, you no longer react in self-protective ways because you don’t have a need to protect yourself. You do not feel abandoned when the other person is being reactive. You don’t interpret the other person’s behavior as being about you. This will first generate some anxiety in the other person because they have expectation you will react in certain ways. Over time they come to realize they don’t seem to have to protect themselves from you as often. They begin to trust that you aren’t
