What is Asexuality?
There is a huge sexual movement going on. It’s not about gay pride. It’s not about sex among the elderly. It’s not even a hidden Viagra agenda I’m speaking of. Today, it’s all about the asexual a.k.a. the person who has no interest in having sex. Does this sound like you? Case Study *Monica is 24-year-old woman who lives a healthy and vibrant life. She has a satisfying job as a registered nurse, loves to swim, and is in a new 8-month relationship. What’s unique about her relationship is that neither she or her boyfriend are interested in having sex with each other or anyone else for that matter. They are what they describe as “asexuals”, and where many physicians and psychologists would call this a problem that needs to be addressed – Monica and her boyfriend feel it is a just a part of who they are and there is nothing wrong with it. “There is absolutely nothing wrong with us. Me and *Jim have just never experienced sexual attraction. It’s not like I’m a woman who use to enjoy sex and
Asexuality is an emerging sexual orientation. Some people who identify as asexual do not experience sexual attraction to other people, while others experience sexual attraction but no desire to act on these attractions. Asexuality Is Not Celibacy Asexuality and Celibacy are not the same. Many people who are asexual live a celibate life, meaning that they do not engage in sex with others. But while Celibacy is a choice (often motivated by religion and other life circumstances), asexuality is not. About Relationships and Intimacy Some people who are asexual lead solitary lives. Many form deep bonds of friendship. Some people who are asexual form long-term relationships with significant others, while others people who are asexual marry. People who are asexual have varying levels of comfort with physical intimacy. Some do not like to be touched. Some enjoy cuddling, kissing and other forms of physical intimacy outside of sexual relationships. Some people who are asexual enter into fully se
Asexuality is a sexual orientation (like hetero-, homo- and bi-sexuality). Heterosexual people are sexually attracted to people of the opposite gender, homosexual people are sexually attracted to people of the same gender as themselves, bisexual people are sexually attracted to people of the opposite gender and of their own gender – and asexual people are not sexually attracted to anyone. Some asexual people are simply indifferent to sex (they can think of more interesting things to do, they do not mind not having sex, but if they do not mind having sex either, although they usually do not particularly long for it either) and others are repulsed (they feel sick when they think about having sex, sex seems unpleasant or disgusting to them, and they do not want to engage in any sexual activity at all). It has nothing to do with enjoying sex or not – some asexual people have had or have sex, enjoy it and find it a pleasurable activity – but it is more about wanting to have sex or not. Asex
An asexual person is someone who has no desire to have sex. Asexuality is not a choice like celibacy. Asexuals do not experience sexual attraction, do not find sexual behaviour appealing and are not compelled to form sexual relationships. Asexuals are not driven to have sex with other people, they don’t get horny and other people don’t turn them on. An asexual would feel completely satisfied if they never shared a single sexual experience for the rest of their lives. Asexual people generally feel completely neutral about sex. Some asexuals may have tried it and found it very disappointing while others find the idea of participating in sexual activity absolutely repulsive. An asexual person will generally be asexual for their entire lives. If you have yet to meet a single person who has aroused you sexually it’s fairly safe to say that you have low or no sexual attraction to others. And if you don’t enjoy sex or find it disappointing this might be because you don’t really want to have s
It is quite an open term, but basically, “asexuality” refers to a lack of sexual attraction. Asexuals are a very diverse group of people, and only you can decide if the label is right for you. As asexuality refers to a lack of sexual attraction, there are many asexuals who have chosen to identify with two or more sexual identities: one to refer to sexual attraction, and the other to refer to romantic attraction. Or, some asexuals identify as aromantic (as opposed to romantic), which is not experiencing romantic attraction. That being said, many asexuals can and do carry out normal relationships. Most asexuals prefer other asexual partners, although some compromise with sexual partners. Each asexual is different: everyone’s romantic needs/preferences are unique to each individual. What is asexuality NOT? Asexuality is not sexual repression or aversion. While some asexuals may be “grossed out” by the idea of sex, most are just indifferent to it. Most asexuals are not “anti-sex”; it is ju
