What is the “charm” referred to in the attunements for Lilim of War and Fate?
Without going into the gory details, the “charm” refered to in the descriptions is pretty close to the English definition, not a game mechanic! If, in the GM’s opinion, the Lilim character has acted “charming” enough to the victim, she should get the bonus. This probably also requires appropriate circumstances. If you are in combat or being tortured, it’s easy to miss the wiles of even a Lilim!
