What is the Difference Between Jealousy and Envy in Abusive Relationships?
What is the difference between jealousy and envy? You know each of these feelings like the back of your hand if you have ever lived in an abusive relationship. Jealousy Jealousy is that feeling of wanting to control what another person appears to be having… attracting… experiencing. We think of it in terms of romantic relationships where one person wants the other person to be nourished by their affections only. When they sense attention and/or attraction from a third party, they feel this uneasiness that we call jealousy. It’s a feeling that says, “I don’t feel stable with respect to ‘you and I’ when you are getting ABC from this other person and/or this other experience.” If you are in an abusive relationship, you know this experience of your partner being jealous of that which brings you pleasure outside of and beyond his/her control. When you are on the receiving end of jealousy, your natural instinct-as a domestic abuse victim-is to minimize your partner’s jealousy, as you kno
