What percentage of the crowd will be men, and what percentage women?
If the employer says it will be almost entirely men, this should raise a red flag with you. This might be a good time to say, “As you may know, my particular performance style is ‘G-rated’, that is, suitable for the whole family and for couples. I’ve often found that groups consisting of primarily men would often rather have a stripper than a belly dancer. Are you sure a belly dancer is what you really want?” If the party will be held in a very public place, like a restaurant, even a primarily-male crowd may be fine, but think carefully before committing to do it. Don’t be afraid to turn down the opportunity if you’re uncomfortable with the situation. • Just to make sure that I deliver the kind of show you’re looking for, could you please briefly describe what you’re expecting? People often have stereotypes or expectations in mind when they hire a belly dancer. Listen to the response to see if what the person describes is a good fit with what you are prepared to do. For example, if the
