What qualities do most people consider “good” when choosing a mate?
Well, I tend to think “would I want to raise children with this man?” before anything else. But we all have different cultural and religious backgrounds, so after the rest of you finish laughing at me we’ll move on to the serious part of my answer. Everyone has their own preferences, and there’s no magic formula to follow. I knew a girl who never dated men under 5 foot 10. I couldn’t care less how tall a man is, but I’m very selective about intellectual companionship. But I’ve heard one piece of advice that I think is a keeper, because it works regardless of these individual differences of opinion: make a list of your positive and negative qualities, as well as those of your prospective mate. Look at what you have in common, and what’s different. Shared positive qualities can often indicate shared values, which are the foundation of a successful relationship. Contrasting positive qualities show what you have to offer each other. You can each learn from the traits that you admire in the
Well, it depends on what that particular person is looking for when choosing a mate, so the answers you get will vary. Personally, I consider these “good” qualities : a sense of humor, intelligent, independent, trustworthy, caring, gainfully employed, no criminal record, and the list goes on and on. Sense of humor is really high on my list though. It also depends on what one defines as qualities. Some say that traits equate to qualities. Other say that lifestyle defines qualities. I think it’s a little of both. It always helps to look at some basics though: sex, money, commitment, and future goals to name a few. These are just examples of what is important to consider besides or along with “good qualities”. A mate can have every single quality you deem “good”, but that’s not always enough. Sex: He/she is into bondage and you’re not. Money: They spend it wildly and never have any and you are very responsible in terms of finances. Many fights are likely. Commitment: You want kids, he/she
As you can tell, the answers are basically similar but all in all everyone has their own inherent criteria for choosing a good mate. I think the ideas mentioned alreadly qualify as the generic signs of someone who would do well in a relationship…ways to choose between potential mates. Not necessarily the criteria for who you should love/like or not. It is entirely possible to fall in love with someone who has none of these qualities and entirely possible to never be attracted to a person who does have these qualities. The best way to go is to determine what personally attracts you to a mate and then to determine if they have the previously listed “good” qualities. physical attraction, mental attraction, spiritual attraction, and so on are going to be different for everyone.
