Why don adoption agencies give adopters accurate information on the natural mothers so they can intelligently answer questions the adoptees start asking?
In closed adoptions, agencies do not give the adopters information on the natural mothers because the adopters paid for a baby to call their own. They did not pay for someone else’s baby, they paid for their own baby. When they took your baby home the caseworkers said it was the adopters’ baby. Caseworkers tell adopters, “You are now this baby’s real mom. Go home and start a new life. From this day forward this is your baby.” To acknowledge the details about you, the mother, would have made you a real person with real feelings. How could adopters be happy if they knew that taking your baby from you caused you pain? We mothers are easy to ignore if we are just a ghost, not a real, thinking, feeling, hurting human being. If they don’t know the details they don’t have to deal with the REALITY. And did they really plan for that cute little baby to ever really grow up and know that there was someone else that our child would be drawn to, need to reconnect with – their mother? 30. “First mom
In closed adoptions, agencies do not give the adopters information on the natural mothers because the adopters paid for a baby to call their own. They did not pay for someone else’s baby, they paid for their own baby. When they took your baby home the caseworkers said it was the adopters’ baby. Caseworkers tell adopters, “You are now this baby’s real mom. Go home and start a new life. From this day forward this is your baby.” To acknowledge the details about you, the mother, would have made you a real person with real feelings. How could adopters be happy if they knew that taking your baby from you caused you pain? We mothers are easy to ignore if we are just a ghost, not a real, thinking, feeling, hurting human being. If they don’t know the details they don’t have to deal with the REALITY. And did they really plan for that cute little baby to ever really grow up and know that there was someone else that our child would be drawn to, need to reconnect with – their mother? 30. “First mom
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