Why do parents of adult children have to try and control their lives all the time.?
Oh gosh i think you will have to sit down and chat and tell them how you feel I have grown children and younger The only way i get involved in my older children’s life’s is if they ask for my help or opinion My boyfriend i have been with 20 years he bought my 2 older children up his mother used to say that he should walk away because he is not my 2 kids dad i have had terrible trouble with his mum for 20 years i have put up with rubbish and he has as well some his mum thinks that he is not grown he is 45 years old i have learnt to let her rattle her gums and take no notice now but i have had 20years to learn to live with it Good luck Hun i do no how you feel Respect shaz
It sounds like your parents think you are making another mistake in choosing a man. Perhaps they are not looking forward to another divorce in your life? It sounds like his parents think he is making a mistake in choosing you. Perhaps they want something different for him – maybe their own idea of how his life should be. You both have parents who want to keep you on the end of their strings to that they can control you. If you are both completely positive, without reservations of any kind, that you two can make a happy family with your children – then by all means, do it. But be prepared for difficult family relations, which can cause much havoc in a marriage. The future problems I see for you will be very tough, and marriage is tough enough without meddling parents and in-laws. Think this through long and hard. Then tell your parents to stop treating you like a child. Thank them for their love and concern, but tell them that you will not tolerate being treated this way anymore. If the
Parents have a hard time seeing their children as adults. Remember, they have seen you as a child growing up but the loose sight of you becoming an adult. Parents also want to protect their children. It appears that your parents and his see you as someone that makes bad choices in marriage and this is affecting their view of you and the man you are dating. You may never be accepted by his parents and this will create a strain on your marriage if you do marry him. It may not be a major strain but it will be there.
I am the other half of the equation. I chose to keep out of it until we saw some a major amount of positivity. Now I feel it is appropriate to bring as much of “The Rest of the Story” As I can. I am the good guy… I met Yellowrose about 1 yr ago and we slowly started a friendship and became best friends. When it was evident that she was not going to be reconciling with her ex we began to explore a deeper more physical relationship. This was a hard thing for YR3200 to do because I have a physically disability, I have Cerebral Palsy and Hydrocephalus. YR3200 is very sensitive of this and knows that at times in other relationships I felt like less of a man because of it. She goes out of her way to make me feel loved and cared for. Her children are phenomanal as well. Both Children know I am not their Daddy, but that I’d lay down my life for them in a heartbeat. I told this to my family and I got a bad reaction. They actually conned a psychiatrist into believing I was going to Kill myself
